It Takes Having Faith...

In order to find love you must have FAITH!...and along the journey of finding true love, the first steps of faith are far from the last! Know that there will be more steps along the way, more decisions, more growth...all of which play a part in deepening your future realtionship!

Stop Complaining!

LOVE them or LEAVE them...but STOP complaining! There is no perfect man or woman, so stop concentrating on the things that they're not when there are so many things that they are! It's your responsibility to build them up! If you don't make them feel like a man/women, then who is?

Do the Work!

Some relationships can look great on the outside...strong...perfection in every way, but what many fail to realize is the conscious effort it takes to maintain such a bond! After the infatuation stage your relationship cant merely last on love alone! You have to clock in every day as you would for work and put in your time! Being in relationship can be very beneficial, fun and exciting, but don't just jump in because it looks good without being willing to do the work!

Take Responsibility! Own Your Stuff!

You can't control the way your spouse acts in your relationship, but you can control how you react in negative situations. You have to take 100 percent responsibility for what you're doing in a relationship because both parties play a role in the breaking and building of it!

Tell Me I'm Beautiful!!

Ladies,

You've just got your hair done, feeling fab as your fresh blow out is grooving in the breeze. Your body's draped in an effortless, sexy ensemble, feeling confident as each garment elegantly hugs you in just the right places. You've got your MAC make-up painted on perfectly, feeling completely made up with a fierce red lip! You look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself  "Yes! I Did That!" in your Tamar Braxton voice. #shewon You turn to your man for confirmation and all he says is NOTHING!!! LOL

Don't you hate when you look your best and your guy doesn't mention a thing? In many cases (at least in a good relationship) it's not that he doesn't actually notice how stunning you look, it's either they are too busy in the mirror looking at themselves awaiting you to cosign their appearance, glued to the TV because it's the last play of the game and it's a MUST see (my man all day,every day!! lol), their brains are so bogged down with work and forgot to leave it at the front door, video games got them captivated or they feel like you already know how beautiful you are...didn't think they needed to tell you!

We have ALL experienced this! It used to drive me crazy...all that effort to go unnoticed is a crime lol In my situation, my husband (WES) would always tell me how great I looked, BUT when the day was over, in that final hour when my make up was faded, I'm wearing flats because my heels have worn me out and my blow out is no longer grooving :(  They'll hit you with this line,  "Baby, you know you looked amazing tonight right?" Ugh! In the words of Drake "better late than never, but NEVER late is better!" (but still I smile and tell him thanks anyway because I love him and he still manages to see the beauty after the day has had its way with me:) )  

I've just had several conversations with friends over the past several week about this and it was hilarious, to say the least, how similar our stories were! So, calling all men!! When you see your girl looking her absolute best (and even when shes not so glammed up because natural beauty is by far the best!) take the time and tell her she's beautiful at first glance! We LOVE and need that :) 

Comment if this has happened to you!! 

Just Because...

Just Because It's Wednesday:

Write a love letter to your partner and cut it into jigsaw puzzle pieces...and enjoy the glow on their face as they piece it together!

Preference or Deal Breaker???

No the difference between preference and deal breakers! Too often we give up on LOVE over silly things...things that can actually be changed...things that have nothing to do with the depth and value of a person. Don't miss out on LOVE because you've allowed insignificant things to hold your attention!

Love Fearlessly!

Only Your Mind Can Produce Fear...Not Your Heart!

One of My Favs!

 

Two of my favorite artists, Lauryn Hill and D'Angelo collaborated and created one of THE best LOVE songs, whose lyrics express how it feels to be lost in LOVE and what an amazing feeling it can be...

What's your favorite LOVE song???

The First Time is All the Evidence You Need!

When people show you who they are believe them! Understand the truth of them and yourself. Don't waste your time with people who have shown you that they really mean no good for you. 

Save yourself the heart ache when the unfaithfulness first presents itself...not after the 10th time it makes itself known!

Single? It's OK!

What's Your LOVE Language???

OK, so lets start with the basics! Do you know your love language? Feel like somethings missing in your relationship? This book may be your problem solver and what better time than now to spice things up a bit. I just finished this book and I must say it's AMAZING!! My Husband (Wes the Best!) and I read it, discovered our LOVE languages, and within a weeks time have been able to better fulfill each other's emotional needs or "LOVE TANKS" as the book refers to it, quicker than the 3 and half years that we've been married! Go Figure!

Single, dating, or married I feel like you have to be willing to learn your love language in order to express to someone how they can effectively communicate love to you! So...what are you waiting for?? Discover your love language using the following link http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/  and share with me if it was able to truly capture how you receive love.

I'll start! My primary love language is Words of Affirmation...

For those that have already read this book please share if its been as helpful to you as it has been for me!

Love Is In The Doing...

When we love someone our love becomes demonstrable or real only through our exertion-through the fact that for that someone...we take an extra step or walk an extra mile. Love is not effortless. To the contrary, love is effortful. 
-M. Scott Peck

Take that extra step for your partner today! When your mate makes a request to do the dishes, make dinner, take out the trash or bathe the kids, do it happily and with no strings attached!

Love 101

Don't Be Mad...It's Just a Brand New Kinda Me!

Alicia Keys has definitely made a come back with her new single entitled "Brand New Me", which I absolutely LOVE!! I heard it for the first time on the Wendy Williams show (How You Doin?? In my Wendy voice lol) and thought the lyrics were just so honest and pure and completely relatable to everybody. So, I was inspired to write and share with you about it! Listen to it and tell me what you think and how it speaks to you!

As for me, it speaks volumes in my world in a couple of ways....

I've come to a point where I'm FINALLY comfortable in my own skin, comfortable with my own thoughts, my goofy personality, my career choice, I'm sexy and I KNOW IT...loving what I see when I look in the mirror :) May sound vain, but I didn't always feel that way...so now I own it and it feels soooo freaking good!! More importantly, this brand new me is a wife and a MOMMY (my daughter is EVERYTHING) and I love every bit of it. So, If I walk a little taller......

As this song pertains to the Principles of Love I believe that your relationship with yourself is the foundation on which all your other relationships are built. We get so caught up in trying to find love when the key is finding yourself; It's amazing how attractive you become. I've found that loving you creates a happy you, and a happy you attracts love.

Here are just a few ways that I've come up with that show how loving you also opens the door for someone else to love you too! Please comment and add your thoughts as well:)

1.  Loving Who You Are Breeds Confidence
-When your confident in who you are your more relaxed and free (free from pain, worry, insecurities),  attracting the right kind of people that will probably treat you with the respect you deserve!

2. Loving Who You Are Attracts Others That Do The Same
-Being happy can help you find a mate who also has a positive attitude and outlook on life, rather someone full of negative energy.

3. Loving Who You Are Helps You Deal With the Disappointments
- Sometimes that guy or girl that you have your eye on is just not that into you! Being confident in the qualities you have and what you can offer in a relationship will stop you from losing sleep at night over the wrong person!

Talk to me!

Me & LOVE Got A Thing Going On...

So, I've finally found my passion! You know that thing you do because you love it. That thing you don't mind waking up early for...or staying up into the wee hours of the night for. That thing that with no added pressure ignites a fire inside of you…to want more, to do more. But, more importantly it's that thing that I believe God has put in my heart to do...well, at least for the moment! (God hasn't created me for just one thing :)) 

What is this "thing" you ask? What can have me so excited that I'd create a blog about it? It's simple. And I've chosen today to share this with you because it gives meaning to what today is all about. It's LOVE....And we kinda got a thing going on!  

"In the end nothing we do or say in this lifetime will matter as much as the way we have loved one another" -Daphne Rose Kingma 

This statement means so much to me that I have decided to dedicate the next three years of my life really pursuing its meaning, learning the science behind it and how it is applicable to those in a love relationship, whether with themselves, a spouse, friend or family member. So, my running title would be Marriage and Family Therapist, but with time Relationship Expert would be ideal!

I'm not presenting to you as an expert, YET, but a friend rather, just wanting to be open and converse with you all about the title of this blog "The Principles of Love". Together we can discover what they are and what they mean from our own experiences and personal encounters...SO LETS TALK! 

PS: HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!!